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Narcissistic abuse is a common but seldom discussed problem in society today.  A person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or NPD, perpetuates this especially vicious form of abuse.  Narcissists are incredibly self-serving people who will not hesitate to use and abuse anyone for their personal gain or to uphold the image they have created of themselves, including their spouse or child.  

Narcissists present a false image to the world that they are good people, but behind closed doors with those closest to them, they are extremely abusive.  As a result, many people do not believe the victim.  They reject and invalidate the victim just when they are needed the most, when opening up about their painful experiences.  Many people suffer in silence because it is easier than being rejected.  Not only have I experienced it myself, but as an author whose primary topic involves writing about recovering from narcissistic abuse, I see this often.  It breaks my heart.

The Butterfly Project is for these wounded, hurting people and to raise awareness.

The Butterfly Project was created in the summer of 2015.  It was going to be simple but pretty origami butterflies, sent via the mail to anyone who requested one.  Or, interested people could learn to make their own by watching my tutorial on youtube

Then one day in the autumn of 2015, I noticed a butterfly outside of my living room window.  The butterfly was a stunning yellow swallowtail (I believe), but his wings were damaged.  I immediately thought of how this reminds me of those affected by narcissistic abuse.  

I've used butterflies on 
book covers for a while as a symbol of surviving narcissistic abuse, because the transformation of a caterpillar into a butterfly reminds me of 2 Corinthians 5:17  "Therefore if any man [be] in Christ, [he is] a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new." (KJV).  However, the damaged one seemed even more appropriate.  No one escapes narcissistic abuse unscathed.  All of us who have been through narcissistic abuse are a little wounded in some ways, yet, like the butterfly outside my window, yet that makes us no less beautiful or valuable. 

After some time passed, I thought it would be a good idea not only to provide butterflies to anyone who requests one, but also to leave them in public places, to be found by those in need of a little comfort and inspiration.  I also hope that even those who find the butterflies but have not been abused will learn about narcissistic abuse and offer support to its victims.  Each butterfly is prayed over, asking God to bless, help and heal the recipient however needed.

For further information on NPD, please visit  Or, feel free to join us on facebook at

If you would like to request a butterfly, completely free of charge, please send a self addressed stamped envelope (with three first class stamps) to:

The Butterfly Project
313 Ritchie HighwaySeverna Park, MD 21146


Do you have any questions or comments?  Have you been helped by The Butterfly Project?  I would love to hear from you!  Email me!

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